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by Lou Paget
Bantam Doubleday Dell, 2000
Review by Susan K. Wingate on Apr 26th 2002

How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure

An educational approach to teaching men how to provide sexual pleasure to the women in their lives. Lou Paget presents very explicit and informed concepts on sexual intimacy and approaching the act of sex with “expanded awareness”. As the author of the Bestselling book, How To Be A Great Lover, she focuses this book for men, about women. She has titled herself a “sexpert”, giving sexuality seminars to men and women alike. She explains, the contents of this book is based on “listening, observing and hearing the feedback of thousands of men and woman, sharing ‘what works’.”

I found the book to be an “easy” read and although very informative, it came across as somewhat redundant to other books very similar in nature. The concept of open communication, once again, being presented as the core foundation for sexual intimacy. The techniques presented were not new or surprising.

I was impressed with the thoroughness of her research in STDs and other health related issues, the listing of resources for readers to become more informed, and the impact these issues have on basic communication, as well as sexual intimacy. I was also impressed with the extensive listing of resources from condoms to “toys”, as a means to heighten awareness through education of the ongoing need for protection against unwanted, unplanned pregnancy and keeping the sex act healthy and fun. Gaining the “male” perspective and candidness, in which their attitudes were presented, was quite enjoyable.

Throughout the book there are boxes labeled “Secret from Lou’s Archives”, that I found somewhat distracting in the overall presentation of the book. However, there is no question in my mind that this book can be a valuable asset to the novice reader. The resources listed alone, increases the credibility of the material.

I would recommend this book for young newly weds, young adults and certainly anyone uninformed about the hows, what, when and where in pursuing sexual relationships. How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure would easily fit into a variety of categories within a library or bookstore, such as, Self-help, Health and Sexuality and Relationships.

 

© 2002 Susan K. Wingate

Susan Wingate is currently working in personnel management at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, North Carolina. She has worked for twelve years as a chemical dependency counselor for adolescents, as well as having worked with survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Her passion is to be a vehicle for creating awareness for self and others.