Not Allowed To Contact My BoyfriendSun, Sep 8th 2002
I have been by myself for seven long years after a former twelve year relationship finally ended. After my partner left however we did see each other for about 15 months. In that time we had no physical relationship but enjoyed each others company for dinner, movie etc. Finally we moved on and I have been alone since. Amazingly I met a man and of course was smitten straight away and after a short period began a physical relationship, however very early in the relationship he was tested for cancer and found to have a malignant growth in his back, he was operated on, and treated and I have not heard another word. I did get one phone call after the operation and before the treatment to say not to contact him, he would contact me, he was about to face an intense course of therapy but did not want to lose our friendship but did not want to be in contact either. Should I give up hope now or do you think there is a chance that he does intend to contact me in the future. I would like to know how he is good or bad.
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