Professional BoundariesMon, Jul 31st 2000
Hi. I have been in therapy for over 5 years with the same therapist, M. M gave me a referral to a lawyer, A, so that I could have my wills done. A is also a very good friend of M's. I end up hitting it off with A when I meet with her several times and we become friends. My relationship with A has gone on for about 8 months now. However, my therapist has told A that basically this situation of our being friends is very uncomfortable for her, because she is my therapist. She says that we should not have become friends, because she referred her on a professional basis only, but she knew that we had become friends from the beginning. She says that there is a boundary conflict because of the friendship, but I haven't spoken about A in therapy at all, except to say that we had become friends. Anyhow, M tells A in a subtle way that she basically has to choose between her ten-year friendship with her or the 8-month friendship with me. What do you think of this?
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