Depression and FriendshipTue, Nov 30th 1999
I have been going through a very severe depression (I have been diagnosed as bipolar). My best friend, also female and 34 years old, has completely cut me out of her life. My heart is broken and I can't seem to get through this! She had written me a card explaining that she couldn't bear to see me so depressed and that I needed to go back on my antidepressant. She said that she just couldn't "be close" when I was feeling like that. Well, I've started taking the medication again and she still wants nothing to do with me. What did I do wrong? I keep replaying in my mind all the things that I could have possibly said or done that she just couldn't handle. It's torture. I wonder if she wants a "perfect" friend. I just can't live up to her standards and I hate myself for it. I love her and miss her and I need to talk about this but she won't even say hello when she sees me (we work together). Is our friendship doomed? She has been my main source of support and fun and companionship for the past two years and I can't bear to think of losing her friendship! Help!!! Thank you so much!
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