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I've known my pastor for 11 years and went to him for counseling upon the death of my dad, and upon the aftermath of an abortion. These latest counseling sessions he offered to hold me and comfort me physically. This went on for about 4 months. Nothing happened but lengthy hugs. Then I began falling in love with him. But then he started pulling back, and distancing himself from me. I sent a cassette tape to him stating my feelings of love and hurt at his distancing. That was 3 months ago, and still no reply or response at all. WHAT HAPPENED?! Can we still hope to have a relationship? If so, HOW?

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