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Falling for My Mentor

I am 23 and have a problem, but I don't have anyone to confide in. Recently, I have started having feelings for a mentor of mine (he is in his late 20s), and I cannot seem to shake them. He is married, and I know he loves and is very close to his wife. They have been married for about 3 years. He might know that I have feelings other than regular friendship, and I am not sure that he does not feel the same. Both of us are not doing anything about it. I need some advice on how to stop this nonsense and to get on with my life, but at the same time maintain my friendship with him (it is important to me). I am also in a long distance (across continents) relationship with someone that has lasted 5 years. Right now I am very confused and depressed, for I am not sure that I love this person as much as I should, as I seem to have stronger feelings (did not know that was possible) for my mentor. Perhaps I am not being fair to my long-distance partner, myself, or my mentor. Please help shed some light on my situation. Thank you very much.

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