So, a while ago I was about to have sex with my girlfriend. it was the first time for both of us, we are both 18. After getting stressed out and thinking about asking her if we should, I was unable to get an erection. This was the first time I've ever had trouble with such a thing. Since then I have found it hard to masturbate to porn, and even be turned on by my girlfriend like I used to. I feel like my sex drive has totally gone out the window! I'm figuring this is all just in my head but I need to know how to get over this. I know for a fact that my girlfriend wants to have sex, but I no longer want to at all, although I know avoiding it will cause damage to our relationship. What is wrong with me and how should I go about getting back to how used to be!?
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