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Abusive Mother

Wed, Jan 4th 2006

Hello Anne my problem is when it comes to my mother. I love her but I don't like her. Over the years my mother has been physical and verbal abusive towards me. I am now an adult and for some reason I thought I was over this so I bought a house with her to have her near. All was fine for a good year then the abuse started again. She likes to put me down she cant beat me anymore so she uses words. And I never fight back I just take it and walk away. Now she has cancer and I am practically taking care of everything all the repairs for the house,what ever she wants. I don't mind helping my mom when ever I am able but its not enough for her. If I go away with the kids she argues,if I spend my money on something I like she argues. I also have a cripple sister that she tends to and I help when ever I can sometimes it gets so bad for me that I want to runaway but I wont because I can not leave them. My husband walked out on me when I found out about my mother illness he told me good luck with all the bills thats another story. I just feel I cant take it anymore if at least she liked me and didn't call me names would help a little. But I cant even tell here how i feel because she gets upset. I know I'm a total mess. HELP ME

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