Affection DeficitSat, Jun 30th 2012
My girlfriend of 20 months who lives 750 miles from me has a very hard time showing affection. I have gone to see her numerous times anywhere from 5 days to 2 wks at a time. During this time she only has kissed me and told me she loves me 2 times. She was the one that kissed me first after we had only seen each other several times. When we met for the first time she hugged me and when I left she hugged me and then it stopped. She is very affectionate when making love which we didn't do until we met the 2nd time. At times when I am with her it seems like I am not there. This would be easier to understand if we lived together and seen each other on a daily basis. Her son says she is cold and has never shown emotions or affection so it is not just me. I know there are alot of ways of showing love and I understand that she loves me. Please shed some light on this matter.
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