Long Distance Relationship TrialsSun, Jan 27th 2008
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for a little over 2 years now. We stay 4700 miles apart and its not easy. We have both just started our respective careers and we can only just manage to spend on our relationship talking and chatting with each other everyday. We have done what we can to spend maximum time together and we were lucky when he got an offer for an internship in my country. I changed cities to be with him and we spent 6 glorious months together. He was trying to get back with a job but it didn't work out. He is still trying to get back. In the meantime, i took leave from work and spent some time with him and his family. Now i am trying to learn his language so I can find some career to pursue in his country. Since he knows English we had no problems communicating so far but I need to learn the language if I have to go and stay there. But things are getting more and more frustrating. Both of us are finding it hard to stay apart and most of our chat/video sessions end in tears with neither knowing how to comfort the other. We both desperately want to be together but at the same time, we are afraid of making drastic changes in our lives that will cause regret later. we know we want to eventually get married but we think it might be a better idea to sort out our careers first before we jump into it. In the meantime, we are slowly going insane and frustrated. Help!
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