Enmeshed With MumSat, Feb 28th 2004
Dear Anne, Please advise me. Today is Valentine's day. I have a very caring boyfriend, but I'm very bordered by my mum who is limiting my freedom. I'm 28 years old already, but my mum whom has a lot of fear of me getting married one day, doesn't allow me to back home later than 10pm. On the other hand, my boyfriend wanted some special time for us, for instance to go to the pub tonight to relax together. Both of us working today till 6pm. My mum mood is disturbed on days when she knows I'll spend time with my boyfriend. Because of her own fear that I'll get married and leave her, she has negative thoughts e.g. boy always has bad intention on girl. My mum also read all my letters and insist I sleep in the same room with her. I have no privacy at all at home. She said everything about me should not be a secret to her. She get mad whenever I try to explain to her on privacy issue, to the stage that she can't sleep and keep on asking me what are the secrets and lies I have not tell her the truth. I'm struggling. I love my boyfriend, I want to spend time with him, I want to have freedom to travel with him once a while, but on the other hand my mum struggle a lot unable to allow this to happen. Anne, please help me. I'm getting depressed and headache whenever my mum insist me not to go for dating nor getting married. Many thanks in advance! Editor Note: Questioner is from Singapore
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