Is he crazy or am I?Wed, Jul 30th 2008
My boyfriend... well ex-boyfriend at the moment, is so confusing to me. He was in love with me since we were 10 and we finally got together when we were 23. Our relationship was magical, as perfect as it could be... but only for like a month. After a month he started to change a lot! Our relationship started by him telling me he loved me and that he was ring shopping and he wanted to spend his life with me. A little tiny conflict, such as a communication problem would come up and suddenly he says we're not meant to be and he would bread up with me. An hour or so later he'll call and say he's so sorry and he'll never do that again. Well he did it again, and he started doing it all the time. He even started doing it when nothing was wrong between us. He would tell me how in love he is with me one minute and change his mind the next just like that. Then suddenly he started manipulating our relationship to make it seem like me and my family are ruining it when nothing wrong was going on. Then of course he would tell me sorry and not to worry and he'll love me forever. I love this guy so much when the times are good, I planned on marrying him but now I don't think that's a good idea. Does it seem like there is something wrong with him or is he just a stupid guy? Oh and he has a history of doing this with girl friends.
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