RestlessFri, Apr 14th 2000
I would really appreciate your advice. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 4 years. We are both 27 years old. Recently we broke up because we seemed to be bickering over the same things over and over again -usually it was me complaining over the lack of time we spent together. He thought I was being unreasonable so we decided to split. So after about 3 weeks he called me and wanted to re-unite. We talked it through and decided to try again and also agreed that moving in together would be good for us. However I am now having second thoughts. I love this guy very much - he is my absolute best friend, I respect him and care about his life but there is something missing. I feel we are friends first (I think this is very important in a relationship) but he doesn't excite me anymore. I have had offers from other guys which have left me wondering what it would be like to meet other people. I find myself thinking of meeting a man and wanting to get married in a couple of years but I while I want to move in with my boyfriend I can't imagine marrying him. Is it normal to feel like this after 4 years? I am a restless person in other aspects of my life so maybe I am just being restless again and should stay with this guy and put all ideas of other guys out of my head. My boyfriend is a decent, honest guy who loves me very much. He said if we split up he would move away as he couldn't bear to see me with someone else. I would hate to hurt him. Please help.
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