Friendship after Love?Tue, Feb 29th 2000
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years after he confessed to cheating on me a few days before Valentines Day. I am completely heartbroken. I am 18 years old and he was my first love. What I can't understand is that he came back to me a few hours later and we had unprotected sex. I felt something was wrong and continued to confront him about it but he continually denied doing anything. He lied to me about accepting numbers from these women. I begged, cried and pleaded with him to stop behaving in this manner before he cheated on me for two whole months. Now there is a chance this girl might be pregnant. I feel betrayed and hurt. I did everything he asked me to, even giving up male friends that I had known years before he came into the picture. I even disobeyed my father to be with him. He told me that he would have enjoyed the encounter very much if he did not feel guilty. I still love him, but I know I wouldn't be able to trust a thing he says to me. Should I remain friends with this man or forget any chance of friendship?
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