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Tue, Feb 29th 2000

I have been married for 13 years. In the past six month I have had a man in my office pursuing me. I hesitated for a while but he kept telling me I was different from the other woman he was seeing in the office. He said she was only sex to him. I mean so much more to him, he didn't know what love felt like until him and I started getting close. He has told me some day we would be together, but he has a small child and doesn't want to get divorced from his wife because he want to stay close to his child. We never had sex just a lot of kissing was going on. Now he has started keeping his distance from me in the office but talks and cuts up with the other woman. He has told me he never intended to hurt me but he needs some time to sort all of this out. It hurts me because for the past two months he has been paying me all this attention and making me feel so good about myself that another man besides my husband finds me attractive and wanted me. Also calling me at work and talking to me telling me how much I mean to him, now it has all stopped. He still calls me at work but we just talk in general. My heart is so heavy It hurts to see him with her in the office and I know when he calls her because I sit next to her, and he doesn't call me or pay me any attention. I know a man like this will keep doing this and I should have been smarter then to get involved. How do I go on from here? Please help me!

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