Waiting for LoveTue, Aug 10th 1999
I met this girl at work and we dated for a couple of weeks. During this time, she was in the middle of a breakup from a 2 year relationship. We had great conversations on the telephone, and both agreed we were highly attracted to each other and enjoyed each others company. It was like the beginning of a new and exciting relationship, except for one problem. Her boyfriend didnt want to break up with her and was crying for her to take him back. She told me she still loved him but they fight all the time. They evidently have broken up a few times in the past and keep getting back together. According to her, she wanted to move on. Because we are both pretty shy, we never really got very intimate. We kissed a few times, initiated by her. I can tell she really liked me, and she even said so many times. But to my disappointment, she told me that she decided to give him one more try. I still see her at work, and we are very friendly to each other. She asks me out for lunch when she can and makes every effort to talk to me. I still think about her quite often, and am not sure what to do. She tells me that she and her boyfriend still fight all the time. Am I doing the wrong thing by waiting on that relationship to end?
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