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Jealous of Her Male FriendsTue, Jan 26th 1999About 7 months ago, I broke up with the love of my life over some very strong ideological differences concerning marriage and children. Last summer, I had a brief but intense long-distance relationship with another person with whom I broke up because she wasn't ready for a committment. I've recently met someone with whom I share most of my very important convictions. She and I clicked from the moment we met and have spent a lot of time together. She is very social and has many male friends, some of whom, she has admitted, have or have had some interest in dating her. She has been very honest and open about her male friends and has been very good about including me in any plans that she makes with them. However, I am very uncomfortable about this and feel threatened. I feel as though I may lose her to them. The other day we went out with a relatively new male friend of hers who, I believe, was making it very clear that he is interested in being more than friends. When I asked her about this, she said that she had not noticed this, and that I should just trust her. Am I crazy? Why am I feeling this way and what can/should I do about these feelings? I realize that these feelings are not healthful, but I can't seem to shake them and I don't want to lose this wonderful woman. THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION WILL NOT BE DISPLAYED UNTIL YOU HAVE INDICATED YOUR AGREEMENT WITH THE DISCLAIMER PRINTED JUST BELOW. CLICK THE 'I AGREE' BUTTON TO AGREE TO THESE TERMS AND SEE THE RESPONSE.
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