Dazed and ConfusedTue, Jan 26th 1999
I have been in love with my best friend for 3 years. He states that he is in love with me. He is also married. His marriage was on rough waters long before we became involved 1 1/2 years ago. I have been patient with him, accepting that he could not come to see me very often. His spouse follows him around 24/7. If he leaves the house, she has someone else follow him. I understand that he is in a tough situation because there are also children involved, and she has not been the kindest to them either. For all the time we have been together, he has been open and honest with me about his situation. Today, I asked him if he still made love to her. His reply was 2 times in the last year, why? I went off the deep end, as I have been faithful to him, and he knows this. He ended up getting more upset with me than I would have ever thought possible, and he was angry because I told him he should have told me, so that I could stop taking the birth control method I have been using. I am so lost and confused. I love this man with all my heart and soul, and he told me he felt the same. My fear of losing him was a part of my fear of being alone, but more so of losing the best friend I have ever had.
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