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He Just Wants to Be Friends...Tue, Sep 8th 1998I am 21, dated a 24 year-old guy earlier this summer for about 4 weeks before he left for 2 months to travel. He came home and is beginning grad school 20 minutes from where I attend college. While we were dating, he invited me to come stay with him at his apartment for a week, to go to his home where his parents live for a weekend, and on a weekend trip with him. He almost asked me to join him on his travel, but decided for various reasons that it wasn't a good idea. He called once and wrote once from the road, and asked me to come visit when he got to his destination. I didn't hear from him for 6 weeks after that, until I called his parents to see if he was back yet. He was. I am a skeptical person by nature, and feel confident when I say that I know he liked me a lot while we were dating earlier this summer. But we got together recently, and he has concluded that he only wants to be friends. He says I haven't done anything, and refused to offer any other information about his decision. I think the world of him and am happy just to be his friend, but of course I want more. I think he's scared to be close to anyone, but at the same time really wants to have that connection. Any suggestions? THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION WILL NOT BE DISPLAYED UNTIL YOU HAVE INDICATED YOUR AGREEMENT WITH THE DISCLAIMER PRINTED JUST BELOW. CLICK THE 'I AGREE' BUTTON TO AGREE TO THESE TERMS AND SEE THE RESPONSE.
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