My Flirtatious BeauTue, Aug 4th 1998
I've been dating a man 7 years younger than myself. I only knew him 3 months when he became ill... while trying to decide if I wanted to continue the relationship, I stood by his side throughout his illness (heart transplant) and throughout his recovery. He hasn't been very honest with me... he is very flirtatious with other women, but says he is just being friendly. If he was just being friendly, are all those other women misinterpreting his behavior? He is 36 and I am 42... he befriended my 16 year old neighbor! He asks her where she is going... knew she went to the prom, but only as friends... says she is really pretty. I catch him watching for her out my window. He is a sports writer and she plays sports, so he claims she is just in the same social circles and they are friends... I think he's sick (she's just a kid), and although I think he has feelings towards her, he won't admit it. He says he loves me and wants to marry me, but his actions don't speak the same language. I lowered myself to tell him to stay away from her, and he must have said something to her because every time I walk out of the door, she slams hers and her friends laugh behind my back. I don't need this. So what do you think? Is he gregarious or an ass hole? I was married most of my life to one man, who died three years ago... This man thing has me baffled. Are their any good ones left over the age of 42? Where does one meet them? Help, I'm drowning in testosterone.
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