Friends With BenefitsWed, Jan 4th 2006
I have been sleeping with one of my really good guy friends. We were friends for over a year before we started having sex (we started sleeping together when he was still with his ex-girlfriend). After the first time we slept together I told him I liked him and would want to date him but we kind of just played that whole thing off and forgot about it. I was surprised when he called me up a week or two after the first time we slept together and he asked if he could come over and we ended up having sex again after we decided to just be friends. We had sex 3 times before he broke up with his girlfriend and the 2 other times I acted as if he was nothing more then a friend that I just have sex with. We have had sex a good 6 or so times now and I just play at being good friends with him, i.e. friends with benefits, but nothing else. We act the same toward each other like we did before we started sleeping together, we have sex then afterwards we pretty much pretend it didn't happen. But in truth I still really like him and do want to date him even though he's dating around (not boyfriend) with other girls. I am afraid if I tell him I still like him we will lose the friendship that we have. He's one of my best friends and even though the sex is great I would hate to lose the friendship. How should I go about telling him that I want to be with him even though I have been pretending that I haven't liked him that way the entire time?
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