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No Sex

My husband was a great lover when we met 27 years ago.  Twelve years later he stopped all sex with me, no intimate touching, nothing, not even passionate kisses. I have caught him masturbating while looking at "stuff" on the computer. This happened three times in the past year. His excuse is he's trying to regain his sex drive.

I am so lonely and yet, when I try to talk to him, he shuts up and refuses to talk about anything related to the issue. I feel like it is slowly killing our marriage. My trust in him is now low, although I am pretty sure he is not having an affair. He is very loving in all other ways, tells me he loves me, constantly, is a great provider but no intimacy in the bedroom. I am desperate about what to do. He won't see a doctor, won't talk about it and won't even try.

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