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Husband Jealous of my Friends and Family

My husband and I have been married for 6+ years. I would consider us to be one of the happiest couples I know. With that said, every 3-4 months my husband displays signs of jealousy (of my family and girl friends) and lashes out at me. He tells me that as a wife I should put him first. In my eyes I always have and always will.

I used to ask my family and friends to call or text only between 9-5 when I knew he would be at work (simply trying to ease him). We are business owners and his hours are now slimmed down to about 10-3 now, so he does hear me talk to my sisters, mom, and a few close girlfriends. I don't understand how he could be jealous when I see my BFF)best friend forever) for lunch about once a week and my sisters once every 2-3 weeks. I do talk to them all a few times a week, I love them and care about how their world is.

When I text in the evening it is usually only when my husband is watching the military channel and he isn't communicating with me anyway.

Am I in the wrong for wanting to foster relationships with my friends and family? My husband has made the comment of how he has to "compete" for my attention. Being a great wife is something I take pride in so this statement comes across as I am not doing a very good job at being his wife. We are home together EVERY evening, I cook, I clean, I tend to the house and pets, I don't nag, we have a great sex life, I don't cheat, I don't overspend, and I support him and encourage him on any endeavor he has.

I am exhausted and confused………….please help.

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