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Erotic Transference and Borderline Personality Disorder

Dear Dr. Dombeck,

I read your answer to the client who was furious at her therapist for not informing her about erotic transference. I, too, am in this painful place. However, in my case there has been some countertransference and we nearly took our various transferences to the bedroom, i.e., suggestion was made, then suddenly relationship was terminated (I got stood up on that very day). This is several months ago, but I'm heartbroken, confused and feel like Tom Hanks in the movie Cast Away when his beloved Wilson is lost at sea. I have borderline personality issues and was wondering if transference plays a different role in my situation? My former therapist has firmly rejected discussing it with me.

Thank you so much, M from Scandinavia

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