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Is Erotic Transference Permanent?

"Good Lord," I wish I had known about this before entering therapy many years ago. Once these feelings emerged they have not stopped and it seems permanent. The only solution seems to be to change therapists but I am too attached and know if I do that I'll break down. I don't discuss it with him anymore, haven't for years. Probably not good but what else can I do? I once thought he felt similar but probably just a projection on my part. Sometimes the feelings are so strong I want to die because it won't happen. Isn't that so wrong? I wish he would act on these feelings...perhaps then it would go away. He could be terrible in bed...that would make it go away. I shouldn't joke but what else can I do? Leaving isn't an option.

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