I am a working mother nearing 40. My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and have 4 children ages 9, 7, 3 and 1. Throughout each pregnancy I've worked full-time and returned to work full-time within 3 months after each birth. I really want to be the primary care-giver for our children, but my husband won't even consider me staying home, saying we would go bankrupt if I didn't work and provide the health coverage for our family. We are careful about spending money, but our lifestyle is based on our combined income. I've tried talking with my husband about some of the options we have, and I've even written him a letter to let him know how serious I am, but every time I bring it up (it's on my mind and heart constantly)he gets sarcastic and angry. I believe if he wanted me to be home with our children, we could make it work. But his heart's not in it, so I'm left with a broken heart. I've lived with these feelings for over 9 years, and it's not gotten any easier. I'm so tired of saying goodbye to my children every day, not to mention all the things that are left undone at the end of each day. Do you have any ideas or suggestions for me?
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