When to Leave Therapy?Wed, Dec 2nd 2009
This is complicated...I started psycho-analysis with my therapist over 6 years ago. She diagnosed me with Major Depressive Disorder without Atypical Reoccurance. I have also been diagnosed with PTSD by my Psychiatrist (am on 30mg Cymbalta daily) and Internist. Basically I had a sad, difficult, traumatic childhood with terribly abusive, neglectful parents, where physical and sexual abuse were daily happenings. There is one particularly bad event in which I disassociated. So for almost 40 years I reflexively disassociated, and my therapist and I have worked with that to the point where I don't do it as often nor as completely. I am very high functioning and have been married for over 15 years to a very successful man. We have 3 children, 1 from my previous marriage.
In a nutshell, I want to end therapy. I have discussed this with my therapist for the past several months and she is adamant that we continue our sessions twice a week. BTW, I pay out of pocket. I feel like I'm in detention. My moods are so improved that I don't have suicidal thoughts anymore, etc. I offered to stay in 1xweek, and she said in order for our work to continue it had to be twice a week. I think once a week is a solid commitment. Anyhow, my husband is starting to believe she (my therapist) has a crush on me, for many reasons. I'm saddened and confused by her rigid 2xweek rule. So, I left her message and said I was taking a break. I know I need to be in therapy still. Also, a huge dilemma is that we work over the phone as I moved out of her state about 5 years ago. And since I received such poor parenting I decided it's best that I see a therapist in person. Thanks in advance for your professional input.
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